Who am I and why would you listen to me?

I am Zol, an ordinary 34-year-old guy from the Western world. No doctor, no psychiatrist, no yogi, no guru, nothing like that. I had a normal life, until a few years ago, when my father died, and it triggered certain emotional issues in me that ruined my life and turned everything upside-down. I lost my dad, lost my job, lost my girlfriend, lost my savings, and didn’t know what to do. I became lost, confused, ashamed, and frightened. And I had to realize that I knew nothing about myself, my inner workings, my feelings, and my emotional issues.

So I did the only thing I was good at: I started learning and dived deep into psychology, self-help, self-discovery, and therapy. In the last 3-4 years of my life therapy and healing was the number one priority in my life, simply because I saw no other choice. I read everything I could get. I tried lots of therapies, tools, and methods. I wrote thousands of pages in my diary about my feelings, my experiences, my discoveries, and realizations. I started publishing these in the form of a personal, diary-like blog.

This personal work, this amazing journey was the best and most important thing I’ve ever done in my life. I learned a lot, had some amazing, breathtaking discoveries and realizations, I have changed profoundly in many ways, and I had some miraculous, cathartic experiences along the way.

Why am I writing about all this?

I started my personal blog earlier mostly for selfish, therapeutic reasons. I wanted to fight against my shame by coming out of hiding and writing about my problems, my thoughts, and my feelings. Besides that, I hoped for some understanding, support, and connection from whoever would read it.

This blog is different (I am a little less selfish now). I am writing because I want to share my experiences and discoveries, to give back to people from all the knowledge, help, love, and support I got along the way. I also write because I believe in a better future. I believe you and the world can change for the better, happier, healthier, and fuller.

What is my message?

My message is something I learned on my journey in the last few years. I believe that change is possible, that we can find our way back to our natural talent, happiness, and creativity. There is a way out of emotional difficulties, unhappiness, anxiety, depression, and anger. The only problem is that we as a society know very little about this. I believe that working on your own life and happiness is the best thing you can do for yourself, for your family, and for the world.

You can read about my message and my beliefs a little longer in my first post.

Is this blog any different?

Considering the thousands of life-advice / self-help / self-improvement / psychology sites, blogs, and books, this is a very reasonable question. Something that is ultimately for you to decide!

But I believe I can give a little different perspective here. First, because I have no education in psychology whatsoever, and second, I am writing about all this from my own point of view, from the perspective of someone who got lost, had no clue at all, and tried to find a way out. I am writing based on my own personal, sometimes painful, other times miraculous experiences and discoveries. So I am not sitting across the table. You and I, we are in the same boat!